Why is masturbation for women such a taboo topic?
I mean, when guys speak up of it it’s almost like it’s EXPECTED of them to do it, but for us, we get approached from different angles like as if we’re seen as desperate or dirty.
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Working with a lot of women who struggle with their hormones, it’s not so much always a physical imbalance that we’re dealing with but also an emotional aspect where they struggle to see themselves as more than just a body.
Sometimes this struggle comes from a history of sexual shame (whether it be imposed parentally, socially, religiously etc) or a sexual trauma could have occurred. In fact, some women even develop anxiety when trying to masturbate because of the sheer pressure they feel to perform- despite being on their own. The notion to be “perfect”, even when no one is watching hangs on women’s minds more than it should.
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That being said, sometimes it isn’t so much of a sexual shame factor that is stopping them but rather there is an energetic blockage, like a shame over their bodies.
🔹️Are you struggling to feel safe in your body?
🔹️Are you scared of allowing yourself to be vulnerable, even if it is only with yourself?
🔹️Are you afraid of allowing yourself to provide love to you because you feel like you don’t deserve it?
All of these reasons are valid but often too common in women where it’s almost alienating to feel comfortable in their own skin because we are taught to NOT like ourselves according to societal standards.
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The key here is to acknowledge ALL of this, the shame, the fear of vulnerability, the struggle to accept your own power is all in your control and to remind yourself a few things:
1️⃣Your body is only yours and doesn’t belong to anyone
2️⃣There is no perfect way to pleasure, it’s up to you to feel it out
3️⃣When you’re alone, you’re the only one judging yourself
4️⃣You do not have to engage if you don’t want to
Your body is yours and exploring it is literally taking your power back into you because you are the one choosing when to do it, how, where and what feels good to you.